I know most of my ideas, well rants, come from forum posts, so I might as well keep that up right?
What is it with people that are adopting that want a state that has TPR in 48-72 hours? Hurry up already and sign those papers honey, couldn’t you sign them before the baby is born? Really we need to hurry up and be parents and who do you think you are to slow us down?
Maybe as babe is passing through the birth canal would be a better time? That way your mind is clouded with pain and you’ll be sure to sign. Heaven forbid that we should have to wait. This should be an easy decision for you, after we’re more deserving.
You mean you’re on mind altering drugs because of that c section? Oh nevermind, it has been fifteen minutes, you should be ready to sign. Come on now, we have parenting to do, and don’t need YOU of all people holding that up.
Ok, so I know, all of that is loaded with sarcasm, but lets be real. Those 48-72 hours are freaking minimums people, minimums. They aren’t times that TPR’s HAVE to be signed in. Too bad so many agencies make parents, both adoptive and birth, assume that they are, especially birth parents. I’m sorry, but at the time of birth, I really could give a crap less about how potential adoptive parents feel. I’m sure it is stressful to not know, but try making that choice. Try having to redecide if adoption is really the right thing for your child. Sorry, but 48-72 hours, not even close to enough time. Anyone that has recovered from a birth will tell you that. Hormones are crazy, you might still be influenced by medications, and it is just damn stressful. I’m not trying to hurt feelings, but if you haven’t experienced giving birth, you truly have no clue how it is.
This is just more entitlement assumed by some people that adopt. It makes me sick, it truly does, but I’m sure you hadn’t figured that out yet.
