I’ve been thinking about something long and hard with the holidays coming. How am I going to handle them this year? Am I going to be a depressed, crying mess because I can’t have everything that I want? No, no I am not. I’m tired of feeling crappy from Thanksgiving to Christmas. My kid and my first family are having fun, so I am going to as well by God.
I know, you’re thinking “But won’t you be sad”? Well there will be twinges here and there but I am going to enjoy my crazy dad and my mom who tries to keep him in line. My brothers and their mouthy girlfriends. They are cool mouthy though, like me. I’m going to enjoy giving my cat her first Christmas present, she is getting a heated bed. Yeah, she’s spoiled. I’m going to have fun doing all of that. Why? Because I want kiddo and my first family to have fun too.
Why shouldn’t everyone in adoption be able to have fun? I’m not saying I won’t have twinges of sadness, because I will, but I refuse to sit around and dwell on what I don’t have. I wouldn’t ever want my son to think I was sad on holidays because of the choice I made. Of course I miss him, but I can’t let that rule my life. Think about my sparkling personality and what my family would miss out on, hehe.
To all of you first parents that feel like you have to be sad at the holidays, I challenge you to something. Don’t be sad, enjoy yourself, trust me, as an adopted person, I want my first family to have a good time. The rest of us should too.
I promise I’ll try….I’m already getting in a funk as we near thanksgiving. I don’t know if that’s a holiday that most first parents have a hard time with or not….I, of course, have a time with it because it’s around Cupcakes birthday. So even when her birthday doesn’t fall on Thanksgiving, to me her birth [space] day is always thanksgiving (does that make sense?) But I think once I get through these next couple weeks I can accept your challenge and push through the December holidays….I like being happy and celebratory, so I promise to try.